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Men and woman don’t fit together anymore! Both are tired of working paying bills have no time to relax have no time to have FUN! War lined up so the pressure is simply too much. Men blame women and women blame men for their bad relationships. Expectations to high bring it down man! Society over sexualised to much of everting!

Two quotes are appropriate to this: "A liar has to have a good memory" and the flip side - Oscar Wilde said "always tell the truth, that way you don't have to remember anything". Another issue mentioned is the stories 'a few degrees off from truth' a half lie is much harder to disprove that a total lie.

I'm this kind of person and I hate it. I don't want to live like this anymore.

I love this woman ❤ what a beautiful legacy. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I'm married to one of these. The only thing we can talk about without it devolving into a circular tug of war over nothing is our 7 cats. We can't even talk about food half the time without it devolving into some type of "debate"....And everything is always my fault. He blames me for his own past behavior on the many ruined vacations, rewriting history to say that I did the very things HE did.

❤So very sadden to hear of your passing, thank you for all you have done for this community

Thank you so much for this eye-opening episode! I have learned over the years to detach from my narcissist adult son. He has really hurt me over the years, but as I've prayed and grown in my faith, I am learning that their actions have nothing to do with me, and it's not my fault for their problems.

My husband and i are both the youngest in our family and people pleasers. My dad and his dad was always strict and controlling. My mom and his mom was pushy, especially his mom. Since moving out to live with me, he has been able to say no more to his family/mom and she gets even pushier.

Happy yo hv found this channel.....very very educational❤

Share a FAKE vulnerability (afraid of birds) and then watch

Thank you God bless

Laura doesn't know how to separate her own issues from a constructive conversation. She mentions admitting and taking ownership over and over. While this may have merit on the overall topic of why we let people affect us, on this particular topic of "how to get people out of your head", I found this counter-productive as she's basically blaming the victim for the toxicity of other people or the allowance of toxicity to affect us, and that's just not how most relationships work. I'm sorry but I didn't find this video helpful, and I gave it a thumbs down.

Omg! Nevvvver felt safe If I wss ever happy I was screwing around told me I was a whore trash The bandage must be taken off!! I’ve gotten so much anxiety and physical illness from all this. Thank you 🙏🏼

He did everything but use his hands on me. A womanizing man that kept me in the DARK about his best friend and their sick relationship!!! 19 yrs of severe tongue Lashing Confusion Never looked at me Told me I was disgusting I’ll never be worthy Yes!!! Playing on my insecurities Taking lesss and wanting more Always using me Womanizer?? Sleeping with a man!!! Making me look nutso around his fam /frnds He passed last sept and no closure

Luhv Gabor Mate thanks for quoting him. He has done a lot of work with trauma and anxiety.

I haven't heard anyone helping parents dear with Narcissistic adult children, it's always the narcissistic husband that abuses the wife which is always the victim!!!! I thank you so much Dr. Rhoberta Shaler for sharing your precious knowledge on this topic and helping PARENTS that have no clue where this is all coming from!!!!!

RIP .... 😔

My narcissist older sister used the silent treatment on my a 300-mile road trip I took with her. I felt the energy as soon as I got in the car. When asked her about it of course she says nothing is wrong, nothing at all. But all the way there and back she hardly spoke a word. I later found out it was because she jealous that I was taking a trip outside the country. I never knew she was jealous of me . Oddly enough I looked up to her. Always tried to please her. So very sad!

So good. Thanks!! I am going to a child’s wedding in 2 wks. I perceive at least 2 of my children are narcs. The others are prob married to them. Thx so much for all the good reminders!!

Thank you 🙏

This is exactly what my soon to be ex husband would do to me. He'd torture me sexually, and psychologically. Until i would snap Then he'd use it as " evidence" that i was the abusive one.

When I talk to my daughter, she totally ignores me and if I ask her if she is listening, she stares at me like I’m stupid. Then she says yes. But I know she is not. How do I handle that. Ignore het

Is sickening how they treat everyone else better than the person they claim to love. I don't understand

Seems like what my wife got caught up in with her father. She is going to get divorced if she doesn't wake up. 😢

What do you do when you love this person...

Thank you, for bringing me comfort and self- confidence. May you be blessed with the same warmth and joy that you have freely given to others!

I reacted in a wrong way and made things worse. I had no skills of dealing with such. Now all that highjackal behaviour is heavily against me and I have been painfully punished. Unfortunately, I deserve it.

Enmeshment between my ex husband and his parents and siblings destroyed our marriage. Divorced and have more peace in being able to have autonomy and boundaries. Their enmeshment led to him abusing our Children and I on the advice and encouragement of his family members and then he had the audacity after physically, psychologically and Emotionally abusing us, he claimed that I was abusing him because I said no and set boundaries. I could never win no matter what I did. Glad to be away from that cesspit of dysfunction. He is so scared to be disowned that he refuses to assert himself. He abused and abandoned our family for his parents and siblings. It's so sick

I just left the love of my life and I really needed to see this.

Dr. Schaler, you broke down my family in such an elegant succinct way that I am convinced you have a crystal ball. Thank you.

I needed to listen to this again. It’s all true and I’ve gone no contact with those fake people 👍👍

Hijackal!! That is GREAT!

That is such a mental illness to me idc what anyone says that is deceitful the most deceitful DELUDED SICK in a way I don’t understand - wouldn’t CARE to - would LOVE to but DON’T want wish or care to - evil. I think it’s the first time I wrote that word 🤷🏻‍♂️. Evil. These people have children. ! Sin of the world. Seem to be All over. Can’t wrap my mind around it. No truth. As Jordan Peterson said, (not that I’m a fan) - it’s ’anti truth’. There’s literally something wrong w their minds - souls - no heart so we DON’T HAVE TO WORRY BOUT THAT .. Viscious ly cruel demons. Never used those words either. They could care less about anything. Not gonna say anymore heaven forbid someone misconstrues someone’s ‘feelings’

What my experience has been with narcissistic people in general, they’re not family orientated, they rather be with strangers and a bad crowd. So they have followers, and they have even more control because of all the people that are very similar to their own personalities at all but a majority of them are just like them. I guess that’s why they call them flying monkeys. Do you know my family tell me so many times they don’t like me because they think I’m a goody two shoes. Cause I’m all about natural health And well-being. I love nature I’m against polluting the environment. I love animals, especially birds and dogs in my favorites. So they have actually told me your two goody goody. And that’s the reason they don’t want to be around me. They like to drink, take drugs, hang out with the wrong people manipulate lie sneak. And that is the truth. At least that’s what I have experienced with most narcissist. They are truly corrupt do you like the gangs that pick on innocent people because they nothing but bullies. And some of them just go to far very abusive.

That is superb enjoy the silence and it works

My parents stayed together for the children for years. It was traumatic for me and my siblings. The sad thing is my mum was the narc and she got custody after they broke up so I'm not sure which was worse 😂

This sweet beautiful woman. Who can barely talk and stuck with us every step of the way. God bless her beautiful, sweet soul. Thank you, ma’am, for your service.

Silent treatment is ABUSE. If you meet/date someone who can’t communicate effectively, it’s a MASSIVE red flag. Run run run!

Silent treatment can be a punishment or a way for someone to calm down and avoid an argument . She one-sided this and victimized the person who is being ignored.

Thank you so so so much for your work, ma’am.

I prefer it’s called narcissistic. Hijackel sounds to nice for them. They are abusing people!

Dr. Schaler‘s family, I am so very sorry for your loss. She had wonderful insight and has helped me so much.. take care ❤

My older sister is very good at THE SILENT TREATMENT. The clearest memory I have of her in her our childhood was one day something happened in her experience that she felt empowered to make herself scarce. She had disappeared all day and into the early evening then she was getting hungry and need to use the bathroom, so she suddenly appeared. She had crawled up to the roof and hid behind the fireplace stack. We called out for her and were very concerned about her, but she heard and saw us trying to find her. She was really enjoying all the activity going on, but we were extremely upset by her antics. I am 82 yrs old and 7 yrs ago I finally caught her in one of her antics, and immediately decided to ignore her hurtful expression toward me, and caught her in a full blown tantrum. It was in that moment I figured out what she was up to, and she knew it. Thank you, for this amazing information!💓💓💓

You must’ve met my daughter

Thank you for email tip btw!

I've been yelled repeatedly and then told to stop screaming or why are you screaming? when I respond. Which always hurt or upset me, which I realize is them trying to get the attention away from their bad behaviors/words. The added hurt is also because they know im always afraid to be misunderstood. Which im realizing they play off that fear. The hard part is emotional detaching when it's your family. But im trying.